So, yesterday I did something that most guys I've ever talked to about girls say that they want girls to do as soon as possible blah blah blah and it made me feel pretty terrible.
A guy from work called and asked me to go on a date. We went bowling and then had dinner...it was fun, but nothing spectacular....no sparks on my side at all. My favorite part of the date was when we were joined by Debbie and Jeff...the couple in their 40's who took a motorcycle ride down to Provo from American Fork for ice cream at the creamery. They were great. Anyway. This guy asked if he could call me again...I felt bad and said "sure" with a shrug.
I knew I should have qualified that....
Anyway, he called me later and asked if he could take me to Tucanos. He had a mission Buddy visiting from Brazil and they wanted some Brazilian food. This story needs some explanation too. Here goes: One of my other friends who was out here at school (I'll just call him J) the year before I came told me that I needed to find a guy who I could seduce and take me to Tucanos, because it was expensive, but really, really good. I told this story to some guys at work...This Guy being one of them...and we'd laughed at it. He asks me by saying, "I've never been there, and I know you've never been there..."
Thankfully, I had duty as an RA when he was going, so I didn't have to tell him that I didn't want to do anything with him anymore as a date. I know...it's cowardly, but I hate hurting people's feelings.
Well, I kept thinking about it, and feeling bad that I hadn't just told him. So I finally decided just to get over it and just call the guy.
So I did it. I actually told This Guy that I didn't like him at all, and that if we were going to do anything together, then I would pay for anything I participated in because it wasn't fair to make him pay for me when we weren't in any kind of relationship because we were just friends.
Now, that's not the part that I felt terrible with. I was honest, I meant it all, and I felt good that I wasn't just stringing the guy along when I knew there was no chance at all that we'd become anything more than just friends...maybe nothing more than pure acquaintances now...*sigh*.
The guy was really nice about it all, and kept saying that he totally understood and threw in a lot of "oh, yeah, uh huh." We decided that rather than going to see a movie in his apartment lounge it'd be better to go to the LRC and watch something there, just as friends.
Today he called to cancel that part too--he said, "I feel like you're just doing it to be nice to me."
Well...yeah...but it's not like I can say that to him. He picked up on it well enough though and the conversation ended with a "see you around campus."
Bah. I'm glad the situation is resolved, and I didn't make him pay too much for it...but yikes, I sure do hate messing with people's emotions. And although it'll be better for him not to waste his time on me...I still felt like a jerk.
Yeah...that's the end. I'm hoping this is a story I can look back on in a week or so and see that it was a real "good for Novel" moment.
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Don't worry, it's better this way. It really is.
Try having your absent roommate's boyfriend suddenly seemingly show an interest in you, but you can't really tell if that's it or if he's just being a good friend--suffice to say he has paid for a few dinners and it's kinda unnerving and confusing . . . I meant to pay for myself, I really did! I'm hoping it will all sort out when she gets back to Provo.
Yeah--not telling the truth jerks people around =/
I still wuv you though. I've already berated you enough about this in person, haven't I?
Umm...TO--I can't really remember you ever berating me about not telling the truth in person...maybe you could clarify?
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